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Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifesting him or her into your life. The basic law of attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.

I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is part of the formula for manifestation. If you do not yet believe with 100% certainty that your soul mate is out there, let’s begin to look for things that will make a believer out of you.

Do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because, loveable people want more love in their lives. But, if you believe you are not loveable, I’m going to ask you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down and then memorize them. You will be using them shortly for your treasure map.

I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soul mate.

The list usually goes something like this:

I’m too old.
I’m too fat.
I’m too damaged.
I have too much baggage.
I am too successful.
I am not successful enough.
All the good ones are taken.
Nobody I want wants me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses to keep you stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse. What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? It’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love.

You don’t really know where air or water comes from but you totally believe that they are there for you. As a human being you know that air and water are your divine right. You know that no matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water.

The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate. There is nothing for you to do, there is only a way for you to BE.

Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
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High self esteem or self confidence, is not something some lucky people are born with, a lot of it lies in our upbringing, and how your self image have been build up through life. If you want happiness, success and fulfillment you need high self esteem. If you appreciate yourself, and look at yourself as worthy of whatever you find important, you will automatically have high self esteem, and a strong self image, which is your conception of your beliefs about yourself.

In fact how you see yourself will always influence your thoughts, your actions, your feelings and your behaviour. And all that put together with your abilities and from that comes the results you produce in your life.

So if you have low self esteem, you will have an inner image of yourself as some sort of a failure or defeat, and you will see yourself as not very worthy, and probably feel like you are a victim of circumstance and bad luck.

And if you have high self esteem, your inner image will project optimism in everything you do, it will be like seeing yourself as a worthy person, and have a great self confidence. You will feel like you have a purpose, and be positive in most, if not all of your actions.

People with high self esteem, are not beating themselves up when they fail at something, they go right back to being optimistic, and see what some might see as failure, as a success, much like Thomas Edison described it when inventing the electric light bulb. “I don’t see myself failing 3000 times with this, I am certain that it will work, and I am 3000 tries closer to success” Not quite accurately what he said, but I think you get the point here.

From this we can also see that high self esteem people have a sense of direction, and a feel for what they do as important. When things don’t work out right for them, they usually stand back, and look objectively at their results, and find what they can correct in order to produce another result, as opposed to low self esteemed persons, who often do the exact same thing to get the exact same results, and they don’t have a clue why.

So, what is the secret to high self-esteem? Basically, it is accepting the self, and then peeling off the layers of conditioning and lies that have caused self esteem and self confidence to decrease and be buried.

7 steps To Increase Your Self Esteem And Self Confidence

1. Accept where you are in life, and don’t keep beating up yourself when you fail at something.

2. Get at peace with your past, your weaknesses and your strengths.

3. Don’t take yourself so seriously, we all make mistakes, and it’s not the end of the world every time.

4. Work on loving yourself for what you are, we are all unique persons, and we all have a worth in life. And try to understand that you are here for a purpose.

5. Remember and cherish your successes, no matter how small they are, it will help your mind learn that success is a part of you. Praise yourself when you achieve something, it is your achievement, and praising yourself for your success is quite the opposite of beating yourself up for failing.

6. Visualize yourself with success and high self esteem, see the person you would bee if you were a success from the outside, study him/her, how they walk, breath, talk and so forth. And then try to be one with that person in your mind, it will be hard to do at first, but if you make this a daily assignment for yourself, it will get easier, and it will work wonders for your self esteem and self confidence.

7. Finally, set goals for yourself, plan your successes, and reward yourself, at least emotionally by praising yourself whenever you achieve some sort of a goal, make it small achievable goals to begin with, it is a great confidence booster to achieve a goal, no matter how small it may seem to others, this is your life, go out and get it.

Do these 7 steps regularly, take action, and you will be well on your way to more self esteem and self confidence, put your all in it, and take back the life you deserve.

Janno Lassen is a Danish hypnotherapist who runs several hypnosis, self hypnosis and self improvement related websites along side having private clients.

Get free self improvement advice, and learn how to raise your self esteem and develop genuine self confidence.

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
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Do you believe in Soul Mates or have you lost hope?

Are you someone who believes:

A) I’m never going to meet my soul mate

B) I used to believe in soul mates until I had a string of frustrating relationships

C) I’m not meeting anyone I like at all!

Believe me, I know, I’ve been there and it hurts. The good news is you can attract a soul mate. It’s not too late!

Please do not give up if you relate to any or all of the above comments. Believe me, I know, I’ve been there and it hurts. The good news is you can attract a soul mate. It’s not too late!

Would you like to know about the different type of soul mate relationships that exist? Why they exist? How to create the best relationships for yourself?

Remember you have FREE WILL.

Here are 3 tips to ensure you call in the right mate and that you make you’re present relationships the best they can be.

1) Treat Yourself with Love

Some people think this means they will become self absorbed and selfish. Then they feel guilty and self criticism kicks in. Oh the voice of that inner critic is so very quiet. Deadly subtle at times, they don’t even notice it. Can you relate?

When was the last time you took really good care of yourself?

My recommendations:

a) Book a lovely spa treatment
b) Arrange a hike with a friend in the fresh air
c) Have some quality time with your best friend (turn your cell phone off and be fully present)

Why do any of the above suggestions?

Because they get you in touch with your soul. When you’re connected to your soul desires this leads to;

2) Listen to Your Soul and You’ll Meet Your Ideal Mate

You have to know what you want. If you’re not clear about who you wish to spend your days with, you’re not going to get what you want. Get quiet and listen inside.

When you love yourself, take good care of yourself, you develop a sense of inner peace. This allows you to be specific about how you wish to spend your time and who you want to hang out with.

3) You Have to Believe Your Soul Mate Exists

You’ve done steps 1 and 2 and hopefully your soul is sensing the potential of a special soul mate. This is when the self sabotage is likely to kick in.

“I’ll never meet someone tall, dark and handsome. If I do, there’s got to be a snag. He’ll leave me, be unfaithful. I’ll get bored”.

The little self-sabotaging voice goes on and on until it wears down your positive expectations. What’s the outcome? You don’t meet anyone or you end up disappointed.

Be optimistic. Even if it feels weird. Look in the mirror and appreciate your beauty. SMILE : )

There is a soul mate out there just for you.

About Joanna Garzilli: Madame Figaro Magazine chose Joanna as “The Psychic to see in Los Angeles”. She has given over a thousand successful psychic readings including celebrities Goldie Hawn and her passion is teaching people to develop their own psychic skills includes Baseball Hall of Fame Ernie Banks. Joanna created Interactive Psychic TV programming in the UK and her TV show was endorsed by Neale Donald Walsch. She has hosted over 150 hours of Live TV and her upcoming book “Unleash The Psychic In You” will be out at the end of 2007. She currently teaches “Living in The Psychic Zone” and “The Soulmates Connection” at The Bodhi Tree Annex West Hollywood, The Aura Shop Santa Monica. Joanna has featured as a psychic expert on MTV. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband Nick, dog and two cats.

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
for more details.
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My people have a very interesting concept rooted in the cycles of life. In this ancient teaching, we are told that to fully celebrate life and feel alive, we must approach life with all our “three faces” together: the face of our childhood, the face of our youth and the face of our adulthood. Our three faces keep us alive and energized, once we lose the ability to carry all these three faces together we live a life of the living dead.

1. Our child face, the face of wonder and magic

Our child face is that part of us that sees wonder and magic all around us. It is the part of us that is joyful, playful, intuitive, dreams and desires -there are no limits, anything is possible. Our child face is open to possibilities and to outcomes and expands our being.

Let yourself go and just dream. What if you could just have what you wanted and wished for? What would your life look like, feel like? How would you make that person feel intensely loved, appreciated and supported? How exciting and fulfilled would your life be? Raise your expectations. Believe that you deserve the best. Armed with your dream and vision keep your heart and mind open to a partner who holds similar dreams and vision of life. Rather than being focused on “this is how a relationship SHOULD look like”, bring forward your child face which says “I wonder what we will create together”. Sometimes it takes the eyes of a child to emerge from our narrow-mindedness and limitations to embrace the magical person right in front of our nose.

2. Our youth face, the face of passion and desire

The face of our youth is that part of us that is lives with fire of passion and desire to express who we are. It’s that part of us that holds our sensuality, passion, spontaneity, unpredictability and vitality. It is the part of us that is highly energized, creative, motivated and inspired.

Tap into our youthful energy and “let’s have some fun” mindset, take advantage of all the fun ways available all around you to meet compatible singles.

1. Accept invitations that come your way, even if it means going solo. You might just have a good time and won’t know unless you go 2. Start a new tradition, something that befits your single life. If you’ve recently become single, there is no gain in longing for what once was, but rather much joy in exploring what is and what can be. Get together with your single friends, ask them to bring along one or two platonic friends, relatives or co-workers of the opposite sex. Add spice to the party with some interesting “get-to-know” games. Conversation will flow and you just never know who showed up right at your own doorstep. 3. Do something outside yourself—something for someone else. There is something so attractive and magnetic about somebody doing something for say a lonely senior, homeless or disadvantaged child. Not only are you helping the less fortunate, you might just meet him/her doing exactly the same thing.

If you find a person who shares your dreams, has the same attitude, passion and vision about life and is as concerned about your happiness and your pursuit of your life’s dreams, as he/she is about his/her own, chances are you have found your soul mate.

3. Our elder’s face , the face of insight and wisdom

Our elder’s face, inner voice, inner mentor, realized self or as we say in Swahili “mzee” is the part of us that is strong and wise and comes with age and insight. It is that part of us that encompass the concerns of a larger worldview, is meditative, reflective and is a source of courage. It is the knowing part of us simply waiting to be listened to and guide us to people and situations where love connections can be made.

Tap into your elder’s face to truly understand what intimate relationships are all about and stay focused on what matters most to you and your future. Use your elder’s face to reflect on how far you’ve come, where you are now on your quest for your soul mate, and what you need to do to allow love to find you. Take time to work on yourself, and all facets of your life. Lose a few pounds if you need to, clean your apartment, attend a self-empowerment seminar, spend more time in mediation, connect with family and friends. The more you expand yourself, the more potential partners you will meet who mirror you in every facet of life and bring you closer to your soul mate.

Make a conscious commitment to be conscious, aware and alive. Enjoy the sensuality of the moment. Avoid obsessing on what should have, could have, might have, instead focus on what is NOW. Each person, encounter and each relationship is unique. Allow yourself to consciously explore each person and each relationship.

And just a little bit more doze of African ancient wisdom, always remember:

1. When it begins, it is the right time

2. Whoever shows up, is exactly the right person

3. Whatever happens, it is the only thing that could have happened

4. When it’s over, it’s OVER.

About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of e-Books: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness, Breaking A Bad Relationships Pattern, and Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way.

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We aim to give you valuable advice, articles and tips from experts across the net in one place for you to comment share, and most importantly, find love and happiness in your life.

This site is part of a Six Step process we have called The Soulmate System. Please enjoy what we put together as individuals and a community across the net!

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
for more details.
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