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Soul mates. The very phrase conjures up images of happily-ever-after and someone to lean on when things get tough. And then…reality check. You find yourself sitting home watching Blind Date with a boxful of tissues because your supposed soul mate ditched you for that co-worker you just knew was putting the moves on your one and only.

No one likes to be in this situation, but it’s happened to the best of us. As they say, some things are meant to be, but were there some things that could have been preventable?

Here are six ways to lose your soul mate and how you can avoid every single one of them:

1. Become his mother

It was once believed that in order to keep a soul mate you had to show your soul mate that you could do everything for him his Mama used to do: cook those nice, big Sunday dinners, mend his shirts, and basically be at his beck and call whenever he was in dire need of guidance. Okay, a bit old-fashioned, but you’d be amazed how many women still do this. While it’s a great thing to show your mate how much you care by cooking him a pot roast dinner after a long day at work, it gets a little overbearing when it’s starting to look like he married his mother and not the vibrant, young woman he fell in love with. What women sometimes don’t realize is that the man doesn’t want to be married to his mother; he wants to be married to you. Be yourself and mesmerize him with your own talents. It’ll pay off in the long run.

2. Doubt his word when he gives you no reason to do so

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you can’t trust your mate, you may as well hang it up. It’s not going to work. If you have doubts about his honesty, something is wrong. Unless you can work it out whatever is bothering you, the relationship will fail.

To learn how to trust is to learn how to take attention off of him or her and focus it on yourself. Do what makes you happy and before you know it, unless he or she gives you reasons to feel otherwise, everything will fall into place. If it still doesn’t, rethink the relationship and move on.

3. Play the silent treatment

One of the most important characteristics of the soul mate relationship is communication. If you can’t say what’s on your mind without your significant other going off the deep end, something is definitely wrong. Repressing your thoughts and opinions is stifling your self-growth as you know, so say what’s on your mind without bottling it up. Your soul mate will respect that and think more of you.

4. Rely on your soul mate to make you happy

I must have preached this a million times. No one can make you happy but yourself. If you have to have someone in your life or if you rely on your soul mate to provide the happiness that you can’t provide yourself, what is going to happen is that your soul mate is going to back off because the relationship is off balance. To create a happy and harmonious relationship with your soul mate, do things you love to do and became the person someone would want to love.

5. Crowd his/her space

Togetherness goes hand in hand for the soul mate relationship, but what happens when there’s no time for exploring one’s self? While we may or may not be aware of it, we’re creating an atmosphere of total consumption. Allow your mate to have interests outside of yours and you do the same. Before long, you’ll be creating a well-rounded and happy relationship that will last a lifetime.

6. Take the other one for granted

Finally, don’t let day-to-day routine become so monotonous that you forget the wonderful person you fell in love with. It’s easy to do because as time wears on, you both become comfortable with one another and it’s only natural you take their love for granted. While this stage in a relationship is gratifying, don’t forget the reason why your soul mate has come into your life and show him or her every day how thankful you are that they are in your life.

© Dorothy Thompson “The Soul Mate Queen”

Author, relationship coach and soul mate expert Dorothy Thompson is one of the nation’s leading authorities on soul mates. Her book ROMANCING THE SOUL and e-books HOW TO FIND AND KEEP YOUR SOUL MATE and 101 FACTS YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT SOUL MATES are three of the most comprehensive guides to explaining what soul mates are really all about. You can visit her website at http://www.soulmatequeen.com

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How often do we complain in life that we never find the right person or the one we are looking for is already taken? You see the thing is that what you are looking for is right there but you are not looking hard enough. And at the same time when we do find the right person we are not able to maintain the relationship in the long term and than we start thinking about where we went wrong. Read on to discover some of the most stunning secrets on how to create a lasting relationship with the kind of person you have always wanted…

Learn to be a listener- To really create long lasting relationships you need to be a good listener. You see often when your partner isn’t heard he or she starts feeling neglected and this is where the relationship truly suffers. Therefore it is extremely important to be a good listener at times and keep the opinions of your partner in mind.

Positivity is the key- Every person wants to be and remain positive. How would you like to be stuck with someone who is negative all the time and is complaining about one thing or the other all the time? This is the reason why you need to maintain a positive attitude throughout and avoid negativity at all costs.

Get rid of all insecure feelings- Insecurity is often the reason why most breakups and poor relationships. You see if you are insecure about yourself you will start acting possessive and would emotionally push your partner away. The best possible way to keep others happy in our company is to be comfortable with ourselves first.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know

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The number of potentially deadly hazards to your relationship is astounding…it makes you wonder why people even try anymore. Well cheer up…for those of us who DO try, the good news is that most of worst things that can ruin your relationship are completely preventable! Five of the most particularly nasty ones are 100% avoidable, as you will soon see.

1) Infidelity. Also known as CHEATING on your partner. Boys and girls, if you can’t seem to fully comprehend the idea that sleeping around is a BAD thing to do that can emotionally destroy your partner…you deserve to be alone, I just feel bad for the person who loved you and got hurt because of it. The rules are simple: don’t cheat. When you commit to a relationship with someone, that means everyone else becomes OFF-LIMITS. Honestly, there’s no reason you should even want to breach your partner’s trust in you…not if you have any shred of human decency.

2) Lack of even a smidgeon of trust in your partner. Ladies are stereotyped as being the worst with this, but guys are just as bad sometimes. People, your partner is not going to go rambling around and getting into trouble with members of the opposite sex if you leave him or her alone for fifteen minutes. Endless phone calls to check in on your partner, harassment as to where he or she has been the instant he/she gets in the door…it can be funny in the movies, but in real life it’s exhausting and claustrophobic. If you can’t trust your partner, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him or her. Lay off.

3) Lack of regard for your partner’s feelings, or emotional support. I know, it’s such a cliched expression that I feel silly just using it, but not giving your partner the emotional support he or she needs is a painful and self-esteem damaging thing. When the one you love has a difficult time seeing how much you DO love him or her, it hurts! Most of this can be helped just by listening to your partner…really listening, and responding like a human person rather than a parrot. A little support from the one who loves you isn’t too much to ask, so don’t be stingy in giving it.

4) Allowing fights and lovers’ quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It’s healthy, it’s natural…it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what’s making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON’T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don’t let them break you two apart…excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don’t let yours be one of them.

5) Stagnancy in a relationship. It’s genuinely sad to me whenever I see or hear of two people who loved each other like crazy just sort of dissipate from lack of any real passion in the relationship. People, never forget what a blessing every second with your partner really is, and help your guy or girl feel that you feel that way in any way you can. Lack of spontaneity and activity dulls relationships down to grey fogs that eventually just disappear, and this is the saddest waste of two loving hearts there is.

Although unforseen things can happen, these basic 5 things are usually the worst of the relationship-killers. Luckily though, with a little loyalty and compassion you can prevent a lot of the things that could cripple your relationship! And when you think about it, is that really too much to ask you to do for the one you love and who loves you?

So try your hardest not to hurt your partner with these stupid and avoidable problems. There’s no reason the two of you can’t be swimming in happiness together, so long as you make a little effort to be a human being…and I don’t see that as an unfair requirement.

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Or you’ll fall for anything. If you do not have values, you never have good relationships. You must know who you are, what you believe in, and what you want in relationship.

Know Who You Are – You are who you are. You have essentially been this person your entire life. You are NOT what you do for a living. That is simply how you make money. You are a person with thoughts, dreams, hopes, and fears. If you really don’t know who you are, you should sit down and write out a description of yourself. You can include your physical attributes, but that is only part of who you are. Write down all the things that are important to you, in any order. Don’t leave anything out, even things you may consider to be flaws or faults. Once you have a better grasp on who you are, you can get on to having meaningful relationships.

Know What You Believe In – Everybody believes in something. I’m not talking about religious beliefs, although that is a big part of who some people are. I’m talking about the things you feel passionately about. Do you feel strongly about politics? religion? sex? West Australian hummingbirds? sports? raising children? Whatever you feel strongly about shapes who you are, and becomes your values system.

Know What You Want – If you are looking for a particular type of relationship, or a particular type of person, DO NOT settle for anything less. If you are looking for a purely physical, short-term situation, and you settle down with someone for a long-term committed relationship, you will end up feeling trapped and it will ultimately end badly. On the other hand, if you’re looking for a long-term commitment, and you hook up with someone for a one-night stand, you will likely end up feeling empty and dirty. If you’re looking for someone outgoing and personable, and you are with someone who is very shy and reserved, you are not going to be very happy, either.

It always comes back to communication, especially with yourself. You must know who you are, what you believe in, and what you want. Otherwise, you not be happy in any relationship.

Will Irvin is the Webmaster for Premier Dating Online, a valuable source for Online Dating Tips, Relationship Advice, and Dating Service Reviews. As an active member of the Online Dating Community, as well as the Online Social Networking Community in general, Will offers a street-level perspective into online relationships, online etiquette, and human relationships in general.

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
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Today I found a wonderful post from the blog site Who Will I Marry which delves into different aspects of soulmate relationships. Click here to view:

Welcome to The Soulmate System.

We aim to give you valuable advice, articles and tips from experts across the net in one place for you to comment share, and most importantly, find love and happiness in your life.

This site is part of a Six Step process we have called The Soulmate System. Please enjoy what we put together as individuals and a community across the net!

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
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