Finding Love

Knowing if the guy you have recently met, the man that sends your heart into a spin and creates a surge of adrenalin through your veins when he calls is really your soulmate and not just a lustful pleasure is vexing question to consider.

Often when finding love, we get swept away with the initial excitement of someone new.

Finding love, separating love and lust in the early days is difficult, if not impossible. More time together is required to really answer this question.

So in order to help our readers find out ‘how to know if he is my Soulmate’, we have put together some tips to help you through this process

1. You have defined this man in your mind before you have met him.

2. Your soul tells you that this man is right for you. There are no doubts.

3. You are friends as well as passionate lovers. Emotional and physical attraction for one another needs to be present. For a true soul mate relationship to occur, one cannot exist without the other.

4. Within the relationship, you have remained 100% true to yourself. If you have had to bend and twist yourself into someone whom you are not in order to be with the man you believe is your soulmate, then he is quite simply NOT your soulmate. If you have had to make huge sacrifices or compromises to your lifestyle, your goals and your dreams, then you are not with your soulmate. Simple as that.

5. He is fully aware of your deepest wishes, desires and dreams in life and he SUPPORTS them.

6. You have a deep commitment to the relationship and to realize each other’s individual goals and dreams within the relationship.

7. You trust this man and you are both loyal to one another.

8. The benefits of being with him far outweigh the costs.

9. Nothing could make you happier than being in love with this man.

10. You cannot imagine being away from this man for long periods.

11. You have a strong gut feeling that you are with the right man. You have eyes only for this man. If you keep thinking about another men, then this guy is not your soulmate. If you have a feeling that you are ‘settling’, then you are generally right. You are. Don’t!

12. You make magic together as a team. He supports your goals and dreams as much as you do his.

13. Your soul journeys seem to complement each other.

14. You share the same values and ideals in life, but respect your differences.

15. You want to tell each other everything and have nothing to hide from each other.

16. There are no unanswered questions about what this man is about. You have a good idea that you know the real him.

17. He makes you feel wonderful. You feel a sense of peace and confidence around him. There is no anxiety or insecurity that he may leave you for someone else. When he goes out, you do not think that he is looking for anyone else. You do not feel threatened by other women.

18. There is no sense of urgency – you do not feel that you need to sleep with him or do anything else in order to keep him.

19. You feel alive and energized with him.

20. He inspires you and makes you want to be a better person.

21. Together, you are a powerful force. As a team, you feel you can conquer the world. You feel that you can do anything together.

22. You do not need him to validate you or make you feel complete.

23. Time is an important element in determining whether a man is your soulmate. With time, you will have the benefit of shared experience. We believe that three to six months is a good indication to see whether this man is your soulmate. Seeing the way he reacts in a number of different situations is the best soulmate determiner.

Finding love is an exciting process that everyone should enjoy. Seize the opportunity to take action to find your soulmate so that you can live a fulfilling and happy life.

Find My Soulmate

Are you always asking yourself, “Why can’t I find my soulmate?”.
Are you presenting yourself in a manner in which your soulmate would find appealing? What kind of personality would your soulmate possess? Would they laugh with you, love with you and be free with you? Then are YOU fun? Happy? Are you loving enough? Are you being free enough with yourself that they can see the real and true you?

If you become what YOU yourself are looking for in a soulmate, or become complementary to what you are looking for, then you will be ready to attract what you are looking for.

This means you will have to go out of your comfort zone and realize some personal growth. Most people are not that aware of themselves. They think everyone should be just like them, but then, that is why they are never truly happy. If you want to have a soulmate who completes you, then you must dig deep and do what needs to be done to attract them to you. No else is at fault for your own faults or weaknesses. The only one responsible for you, is you! It’s time to do something about it. By acknowledging that this will be a lifestyle change, you are taking the first step to creating a better life for yourself.

Now it is time to get out there and do it! And don’t think about this as a chore, because YOU are going to reap all the rewards and benefits from TRANSFORMING yourself into a BETTER you!

Write down what you want in a soulmate, once you have done that, take the next vital step. Ask yourself: ‘What do I need to BE, DO, and HAVE in order to attract my soulmate?’

Example:

If you admire a man who is in shape and well kept, then more than likely he is not going to find an overweight, uninspired woman as a mate. So you would have to start BEING fit and healthy-minded. This can happen by you actually working out and starting to change your diet. This would also require you to get signed up at your local gym, commit to going at least 4 times a week and by eating healthy foods both at home and at work. Get the gist?

You need to make this list and check it twice.

Who do I need to BE to attract and find my soulmate?

1.__________________________________________________________

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3.__________________________________________________________

4.__________________________________________________________

5.__________________________________________________________

What do I need to DO to attract my soulmate?

1._________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________

4.__________________________________________________________

5.__________________________________________________________

And the most important, is that list of QUALITIES you already possess that would make your ideal soulmate look at you!

1.__________________________________________________________

2.___________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________

4._________________________________________________________

5._________________________________________________________

The next step of your transformation is to take one item from each list and start working on it, changing it or improving it.

Be the best of who you really are. Remember what you wrote about what you wanted for yourself and your life? That’s where you want to place your focus from now on.

Let’s go back to the original list you made of the qualities you would like your soulmate to possess. Read through it again and find out how you can round him out. How would you complete him?

You already have special and unique qualities and characteristics that your soulmate will appreciate and that will really enhance your relationship. These are the qualities you are going to capitalize on.

So, what other traits will you be able to incorporate to make that happen?

If you are being the very best you can be, you will radiate a certain aura – a confident and happy one – which will attract your soulmate more easily to you. When you start to exude these feelings, you will never have to wonder where your soulmate is, because they will come looking for you! Nothing will draw people more to you than when you feel comfortable in your own skin.

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step – MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.

Hopefully by taking this process, you won’t be asking how do i find my soulmate“? again.

Check out the real system if you would like to know more about ‘how to find my soulmate‘

“Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals.”

-Orison Swett Marden

Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can’t find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? If you do, ask yourself this: Why haven’t you found him yet? And, while you’re flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this…

The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because that’s what it’s made up of. People attract other people who are “made up” of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.

So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you want-like money, power, and confidence? Even the things you don’t want-debt, conflict, or poor self image? How about love…do you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let’s explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.

When you’re chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like “I’m never going to find my Mr. Right” or “There must be something wrong with me,” or “I hate dating,” or “My one true love must not exist,” or “I don’t believe in soulmates.”? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you haven’t found your true love yet? Or, do you think they’re totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you’ll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, it’s time for a reality check!

Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn’t think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the “man magnet” you’re casting out into the world?

Skill skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Don’t worry; you’re absolutely right: A man *will* appear. He’ll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesn’t make your life miserable right away, he’ll at least keep you from finding somebody better…for a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn’t changed, the next man you’ll attract isn’t going to be Mr. Wrong, he’s going to be Mr. Really Wrong!

You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that you’re asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!

Now, you’re in a real pickle because you’ve got what you asked for, but it’s not what you want. When you state “I don’t want this or that” and “I don’t need such and such,” it’s exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you “just can’t get a break,” “why everybody else is falling in love but me,” and you’re left to wallow in the idea that you’re “going to grow old alone.” If this is how you feel, you’re not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don’t know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.

But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize “it” doesn’t care one way or the other if you’re happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of “I sure hope she finds her dream man this time!” If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.

Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.

You might be asking yourself, “Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys?” or “Hey, I don’t even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started?” I’m glad you asked!

You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:

1. Define the type of relationship you want

“I want to meet the man of my dreams,” isn’t going to cut it. Be specific (e.g., “I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park.” or “I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes.” or “I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh.”).

2. How does this man treat you?

(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day…)

3. How does it feel when you are with him?

(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter…)

4. What does he look like?

(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles…))

5. What does he do for fun?

(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel…)

6. Where will you meet this man?

(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club…)

7. How will you know you’ve found him?

(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance…)

When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him…even taste him!

Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilled…and it really is…the universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.

Don’t believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn’t it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within and-snap-start attracting your perfect man now?

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