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Soul mates. The very phrase conjures up images of happily-ever-after and someone to lean on when things get tough. And then…reality check. You find yourself sitting home watching Blind Date with a boxful of tissues because your supposed soul mate ditched you for that co-worker you just knew was putting the moves on your one and only.

No one likes to be in this situation, but it’s happened to the best of us. As they say, some things are meant to be, but were there some things that could have been preventable?

Here are six ways to lose your soul mate and how you can avoid every single one of them:

1. Become his mother

It was once believed that in order to keep a soul mate you had to show your soul mate that you could do everything for him his Mama used to do: cook those nice, big Sunday dinners, mend his shirts, and basically be at his beck and call whenever he was in dire need of guidance. Okay, a bit old-fashioned, but you’d be amazed how many women still do this. While it’s a great thing to show your mate how much you care by cooking him a pot roast dinner after a long day at work, it gets a little overbearing when it’s starting to look like he married his mother and not the vibrant, young woman he fell in love with. What women sometimes don’t realize is that the man doesn’t want to be married to his mother; he wants to be married to you. Be yourself and mesmerize him with your own talents. It’ll pay off in the long run.

2. Doubt his word when he gives you no reason to do so

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you can’t trust your mate, you may as well hang it up. It’s not going to work. If you have doubts about his honesty, something is wrong. Unless you can work it out whatever is bothering you, the relationship will fail.

To learn how to trust is to learn how to take attention off of him or her and focus it on yourself. Do what makes you happy and before you know it, unless he or she gives you reasons to feel otherwise, everything will fall into place. If it still doesn’t, rethink the relationship and move on.

3. Play the silent treatment

One of the most important characteristics of the soul mate relationship is communication. If you can’t say what’s on your mind without your significant other going off the deep end, something is definitely wrong. Repressing your thoughts and opinions is stifling your self-growth as you know, so say what’s on your mind without bottling it up. Your soul mate will respect that and think more of you.

4. Rely on your soul mate to make you happy

I must have preached this a million times. No one can make you happy but yourself. If you have to have someone in your life or if you rely on your soul mate to provide the happiness that you can’t provide yourself, what is going to happen is that your soul mate is going to back off because the relationship is off balance. To create a happy and harmonious relationship with your soul mate, do things you love to do and became the person someone would want to love.

5. Crowd his/her space

Togetherness goes hand in hand for the soul mate relationship, but what happens when there’s no time for exploring one’s self? While we may or may not be aware of it, we’re creating an atmosphere of total consumption. Allow your mate to have interests outside of yours and you do the same. Before long, you’ll be creating a well-rounded and happy relationship that will last a lifetime.

6. Take the other one for granted

Finally, don’t let day-to-day routine become so monotonous that you forget the wonderful person you fell in love with. It’s easy to do because as time wears on, you both become comfortable with one another and it’s only natural you take their love for granted. While this stage in a relationship is gratifying, don’t forget the reason why your soul mate has come into your life and show him or her every day how thankful you are that they are in your life.

© Dorothy Thompson “The Soul Mate Queen”

Author, relationship coach and soul mate expert Dorothy Thompson is one of the nation’s leading authorities on soul mates. Her book ROMANCING THE SOUL and e-books HOW TO FIND AND KEEP YOUR SOUL MATE and 101 FACTS YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT SOUL MATES are three of the most comprehensive guides to explaining what soul mates are really all about. You can visit her website at http://www.soulmatequeen.com

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“Men and women are human magnets. Just as a steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond to our thoughts and ideals.”

-Orison Swett Marden

Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can’t find your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? If you do, ask yourself this: Why haven’t you found him yet? And, while you’re flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this…

The Universal Law of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet attracts iron ore because that’s what it’s made up of. People attract other people who are “made up” of the same stuff, like hopes, desires, fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.

So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just like a magnet? The things you want-like money, power, and confidence? Even the things you don’t want-debt, conflict, or poor self image? How about love…do you think you can use this law to attract your one true love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let’s explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your girlfriends about men, dating, and love.

When you’re chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things like “I’m never going to find my Mr. Right” or “There must be something wrong with me,” or “I hate dating,” or “My one true love must not exist,” or “I don’t believe in soulmates.”? If you do, do you think such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection with why you haven’t found your true love yet? Or, do you think they’re totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you’ll live happily ever after? If you think the latter, it’s time for a reality check!

Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn’t think so. So why should a man be attracted to you if this is the “man magnet” you’re casting out into the world?

Skill skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still want to buck the law of attraction? Don’t worry; you’re absolutely right: A man *will* appear. He’ll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit your self-doubt, and if he doesn’t make your life miserable right away, he’ll at least keep you from finding somebody better…for a long time to come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn’t changed, the next man you’ll attract isn’t going to be Mr. Wrong, he’s going to be Mr. Really Wrong!

You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The only problem is that you’re asking the universe to send you the *opposite* of what you truly want!

Now, you’re in a real pickle because you’ve got what you asked for, but it’s not what you want. When you state “I don’t want this or that” and “I don’t need such and such,” it’s exactly what you attract. Then you find yourself wondering why you “just can’t get a break,” “why everybody else is falling in love but me,” and you’re left to wallow in the idea that you’re “going to grow old alone.” If this is how you feel, you’re not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don’t know how to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they attract.

But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize “it” doesn’t care one way or the other if you’re happy or sad, with Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and without any sentiment of “I sure hope she finds her dream man this time!” If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who changes them.

Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr. Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.

You might be asking yourself, “Gee, this all sounds good, but how the heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end relationships, and deadbeat guys?” or “Hey, I don’t even know where to begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get started?” I’m glad you asked!

You can start making the universal law of attraction work in your favor by answering seven super simple questions:

1. Define the type of relationship you want

“I want to meet the man of my dreams,” isn’t going to cut it. Be specific (e.g., “I want to find a husband who is passionate about his career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park.” or “I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly black hair and brown eyes.” or “I would love to go on a romantic date with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh.”).

2. How does this man treat you?

(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like a princess, rubs my feet after a long day…)

3. How does it feel when you are with him?

(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is like music to my ears when I hear his laughter…)

4. What does he look like?

(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes, black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair skinned, freckles…))

5. What does he do for fun?

(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain climbing, reading, swimming, travel…)

6. Where will you meet this man?

(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club…)

7. How will you know you’ve found him?

(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance…)

When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it. So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him…even taste him!

Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with knowing your desire is already fulfilled…and it really is…the universal law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you almost immediately.

Don’t believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn’t it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within and-snap-start attracting your perfect man now?

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The number of potentially deadly hazards to your relationship is astounding…it makes you wonder why people even try anymore. Well cheer up…for those of us who DO try, the good news is that most of worst things that can ruin your relationship are completely preventable! Five of the most particularly nasty ones are 100% avoidable, as you will soon see.

1) Infidelity. Also known as CHEATING on your partner. Boys and girls, if you can’t seem to fully comprehend the idea that sleeping around is a BAD thing to do that can emotionally destroy your partner…you deserve to be alone, I just feel bad for the person who loved you and got hurt because of it. The rules are simple: don’t cheat. When you commit to a relationship with someone, that means everyone else becomes OFF-LIMITS. Honestly, there’s no reason you should even want to breach your partner’s trust in you…not if you have any shred of human decency.

2) Lack of even a smidgeon of trust in your partner. Ladies are stereotyped as being the worst with this, but guys are just as bad sometimes. People, your partner is not going to go rambling around and getting into trouble with members of the opposite sex if you leave him or her alone for fifteen minutes. Endless phone calls to check in on your partner, harassment as to where he or she has been the instant he/she gets in the door…it can be funny in the movies, but in real life it’s exhausting and claustrophobic. If you can’t trust your partner, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him or her. Lay off.

3) Lack of regard for your partner’s feelings, or emotional support. I know, it’s such a cliched expression that I feel silly just using it, but not giving your partner the emotional support he or she needs is a painful and self-esteem damaging thing. When the one you love has a difficult time seeing how much you DO love him or her, it hurts! Most of this can be helped just by listening to your partner…really listening, and responding like a human person rather than a parrot. A little support from the one who loves you isn’t too much to ask, so don’t be stingy in giving it.

4) Allowing fights and lovers’ quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It’s healthy, it’s natural…it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what’s making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON’T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don’t let them break you two apart…excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don’t let yours be one of them.

5) Stagnancy in a relationship. It’s genuinely sad to me whenever I see or hear of two people who loved each other like crazy just sort of dissipate from lack of any real passion in the relationship. People, never forget what a blessing every second with your partner really is, and help your guy or girl feel that you feel that way in any way you can. Lack of spontaneity and activity dulls relationships down to grey fogs that eventually just disappear, and this is the saddest waste of two loving hearts there is.

Although unforseen things can happen, these basic 5 things are usually the worst of the relationship-killers. Luckily though, with a little loyalty and compassion you can prevent a lot of the things that could cripple your relationship! And when you think about it, is that really too much to ask you to do for the one you love and who loves you?

So try your hardest not to hurt your partner with these stupid and avoidable problems. There’s no reason the two of you can’t be swimming in happiness together, so long as you make a little effort to be a human being…and I don’t see that as an unfair requirement.

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So you like your partner, you find him or her attractive, but questions remain and run through your mind, like:

- How long would it last?

- Would he or she keep finding me attractive?

- Would we be able to talk to each other in a month, a year?

Questions like these can disturb sometime and in any case it would be nice just to have some stable data to be able to test your relationship compatibility.

Once your can answer the questions above and others similar to yourself with enough reliability, the life would become easier and lighter, the mind would stop be bothered with those unnecessary concerns and instead you’d be planning your vacation and holidays together light heartedly.

I want to give you 10 important points to discover about your partner and yourself to test if your life would go smoothly together or there would be quite a few arguments and quarrels on the way.

Please, be advised, that whatever you decide your compatibility is based on the question I give, something can be done about it! And quite a lot, for that matter. But you’d better know where you stand, wouldn’t you?

Here are the tests and yes they are simple but very powerful, when looked into thoroughly:

1. What do you like doing compared to what your partner does?

2. What do you hate doing compared to what your partner does?

3. What do you like talking about and what your partner does?

4. What do you rather not talk about and what about your partner?

5. What do you like listening to and what your partner does?

6. What would you really not listen to? What about your partner?

7. What do you both think a person should have to be happy?

8. What do you both think a person better not have to be well?

9. What do each of you dream to become if that would be possible?

10. Where would you really hate finding yourself as a person?

These are quite profound questions, aren’t they? But they quite often outline the mental state and the envisioned future of a person. According to some very serious studies, a person quite often finds himself exactly where he envisions himself and his liking or disliking seldom change too sharply.

So what I suggest here is to ask those questions yourself and your partner and try to decide just how much of a common ground you have right now. That might give you a clue and a start.

Want to learn more and become an expert in relationship compatibility testing? Download my FREE Report ‘Are You Really Compatible?’.

Alexander Stern has an extensive knowledge in the field of relationship compatibility and the art of developing a long-lasting loving relationship. Alexander writes on many topics to help people remove the stress and confusion in all that relates to their relationship.

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Dating fatigue happens a lot. And that’s too bad. Because many miss out on meeting the person they could really have build a life with.

Why? Simply because they let the dating rigmarole run them ragged. Once depressed and wounded, they close their minds and hearts to real possibilities. Some begin the next date with an attitude of negativity and disappointment that suffocates all hope.

Others simply stop dating, and they do it one date before they might have met Mr. or Ms. Quite Right. They don’t know that, of course, and it’s a good thing they don’t.

The worst part is, once stopped, one of two things often happen. They let that stop become permanent. Or they start again from scratch, making the same mistakes-or worse-because they keep the anger and embitterment developed during their “Dating Shutdown.”

How to avoid all that?

Try these:

1. Know what you’re looking for deep down. No long lists of characteristics, eye colors, and bank-account sums. Start with the essence. What kind of person are you looking for? Who do you believe you could spend your life with? Begin with this thought: “I could spend my life with someone who…”

2. Know what and whom you want to avoid. “I couldn’t spend my life with someone who…”

3. Notice if there’s a long list for #2 and a short list for #1. That often means you know lots about who you don’t want and little about who you do want. Ask yourself how you can reverse that situation.

4. Don’t date just to date. Do mix with new groups, different sorts of people, various activities, and do ask your friends to help you meet their friends. No fix-ups, just casual hanging out for starters.

5. Enjoy everyone you meet as a person first.

6. Build yourself into a person you would really like to hang out with.

7. Believe that when you’re ready to date, you’ll know it. It may not come as a feeling that says “Hey! I want to get back in cir-cu-la-tion!” Most of my clients report that it’s a quieter, more subtle feeling that says, “I’d like to go out with X” or “I want t get to know more about Y.”

8. Know your limit. It’s like drinking. Some people want to schedule incessant dates from Thursday night to Sunday night. Others want to get to know someone instead of auditioning a crowd. Discover your style and respect it.

9. Take breaks when needed. Savor each date or meeting. Learn about yourself and use that in your next encounter. You’ll have more quality encounters that way.

Most important, allow yourself to have fun. Don’t look to score the big hit. Nudge yourself to experience, grow and learn along the way. It will make the next relationship a higher quality one that may turn out to be a keeper. ©2008 by Wendy Lapidus-Saltz. All rights reserved.

Wendy Lapidus-Saltz is a mind coach who uses hypnosis and other techniques to help people break unproductive habits of thought and action, and create productive new ones. Based in Chicago and an expert at phone sessions, she specializes in smoking-cessation and issues of love and relationship. For more info on her programs visit http://www.nonsmoker4life.com and http://www.hypno-attraction.com or call 312-640-1584 for a brief consultation during business hours, Central time.

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
for more details. Otherwise check out The Soulmate System Blog here.
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Have you ever known any women who seem to be “lucky in love” and where everything involving men seems to come easily and effortlessly to them? Do you know how to make a guy that you like want you?

Well, it is not a magic to make any guy you like want you. You don’t need to be gorgeous or young either. And you don’t have to be LUCKY too. What you NEED to do is to LEARN! Here are 3 things that you can do to start making him want you:

1. Developing attractive personality

Developing an attractive personality is truly the core of being successful in making a guy wants you. Attractive personality comes from a sense of enjoyment for life. The moment you express your emotions like outgoing, fun, active, have goals and ambitions, look and feel healthy, you naturally generate these waves of excitement around you and guys do click on it.

Once you feel naturally happy and excited about your existence, you can develop a special flirty connection with a guy you like. If you think about attraction only when you have a crush, you feel pressured and stressed because you feel you need to develop all these skills at once. Start right now developing an attractive personality! That way, when you truly have to be at your best, you’ll have no problem giving yourself this extra kick to seduce a specific man you like

2. Make a guy feels good when he is around you

It is very simple: you want to understand his needs and give him what he is looking for. When you speak to him, identify what he likes and does not like and see how you can be part of this picture. Remember that guys come back to you because of the way they feel about themselves when they are with you.

If he can feel good, laughter, fun, joy, connection, some depth, refinement, and pleasure when he is with you and you are also an open door into something he wants, then this is the moment that he gets attracted to you.

3. Focus first on flirting with him!

If you like a guy, don’t walk to him and ask him out. Focus first on flirting and building up complicity. The relationship or dating “thing” comes later. Once he warms up to the idea that you are fun to be with, he’ll be an easy pray!

Finally, if you want to more succeed in getting a man that you like, then you need extra power and effective strategies. You have two options:

a. The first one is to keep on doing what you have been doing till now.

b. The second one is to connect with a new refreshing mind set.

Dating is like hunting. You can sit down and wait. It won’t work!

If you want to break through, you need to take action! You need to know how to relate to men. You need to know how to feel comfortable around them, understand their psyche and know how to make your relationship with a man work.

These are your goals!

These are your targets.

You don t want just a man in your life!

You actually want to be able to connect with any man you like effortlessly!

No shame! No guilt! Fearless!

So, what do you want to conquer?

A man’s heart!

A man’s mind!

Then, do what it takes to succeed!

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Meeting the in-laws is a purposeful and planned event, especially for those who do not live with them. If you are still living with your folks, skip to “Still living at home, how to successfully land the man of your dreams”.

For some, introductions are coordinated in the first month of a relationship, while others wait until several months or even years into the relationships. The reasons can depend on culture, strength of parent-child relationship, strength of couple, horrible past introductions, and for a wide variety of other reasons. The ‘intro’ can happen at any time.

Things to watch out for:

* One person is pushing to meet the in-laws while the other one is adamant on not coordinating a meeting. While this could indicate simple discontent with the parents, or lack of regard for their input into the life, not wanting to allow a crossing over of lives can be a symptom of something major, such as fear of commitment, embarrassment, or worse! The lack of an introduction can mean that the other person is not sure about how you fit into their lives.

* After meeting the in-laws they want to be integrated into all aspects of your life. What can happen if you introduce the family too soon? They can begin to feel as though they have a responsibility to ensure the success of the relationship and start meddling. Be careful! Once you begin to allow it, if you suddenly decide to lead your own life, it will damage their egos.

* If you are dating someone from a different culture, ensure that you both understand the different cultural affiliations, and norms. Interracial or intercultural relationships can present significant advantages and add different views and ways of lives. But, when meeting the in-laws, it is important to attempt to acknowledge and embrace their way of life. It may not be that different, but accepting the changes and slight variations in traditions can go a long way to your peaceful and seamless integration into the family environment. I’m sure you have invited a mate for dinner at your parent’s place, where after they left, your mother or father made a comment about his mannerism, accent, behavior, historical background. We live in a world that is much more tolerant than our ancestors; however, differences still intrigue us. So, ensure to brief both parties about the differences, or orchestrate an open discussion.

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Or you’ll fall for anything. If you do not have values, you never have good relationships. You must know who you are, what you believe in, and what you want in relationship.

Know Who You Are – You are who you are. You have essentially been this person your entire life. You are NOT what you do for a living. That is simply how you make money. You are a person with thoughts, dreams, hopes, and fears. If you really don’t know who you are, you should sit down and write out a description of yourself. You can include your physical attributes, but that is only part of who you are. Write down all the things that are important to you, in any order. Don’t leave anything out, even things you may consider to be flaws or faults. Once you have a better grasp on who you are, you can get on to having meaningful relationships.

Know What You Believe In – Everybody believes in something. I’m not talking about religious beliefs, although that is a big part of who some people are. I’m talking about the things you feel passionately about. Do you feel strongly about politics? religion? sex? West Australian hummingbirds? sports? raising children? Whatever you feel strongly about shapes who you are, and becomes your values system.

Know What You Want – If you are looking for a particular type of relationship, or a particular type of person, DO NOT settle for anything less. If you are looking for a purely physical, short-term situation, and you settle down with someone for a long-term committed relationship, you will end up feeling trapped and it will ultimately end badly. On the other hand, if you’re looking for a long-term commitment, and you hook up with someone for a one-night stand, you will likely end up feeling empty and dirty. If you’re looking for someone outgoing and personable, and you are with someone who is very shy and reserved, you are not going to be very happy, either.

It always comes back to communication, especially with yourself. You must know who you are, what you believe in, and what you want. Otherwise, you not be happy in any relationship.

Will Irvin is the Webmaster for Premier Dating Online, a valuable source for Online Dating Tips, Relationship Advice, and Dating Service Reviews. As an active member of the Online Dating Community, as well as the Online Social Networking Community in general, Will offers a street-level perspective into online relationships, online etiquette, and human relationships in general.

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How do you tell if a guy likes you? That is the question that I always hear when a girl is asking to their friends about a guy that she starts getting interested to him.

Sometimes, it can be frustrating not knowing the whether he may feel the same way as you do. Sometimes we might think that he does like us but the fact might be the opposite.

Well, to know that a guy likes you then you have to read the signs from himself to know if he really likes to you or not. So, here are some signs to look for to know when a guy likes you:

1. He will make eye contact with you, then look away when your eyes meet.

2. He always be willing to help you or do you favors (like rides home, or physical work)

3. He will always look for you in a crowd, then when he finds you will act like he doesn’t see you

4. He will laugh at all your jokes/will try to make you laugh.

5. He talks to his friends about you

6. He mentions activities that you are interested in so there is a chance for you two to do them together.

7. He will always find a reason to talk to you or touch you in any way.

8. He pokes fun at you, but in a nice way

9. He seems genuinely interested in what you have to say.

10. He remembers little things that you’ve talked about before a long time ago, and brings them up in conversations to let you know that he remembered.

11. He will always stare at you, and your friends may notice it too.

12. When you are talking with him and your friends, he will only comment on something that you say, or will look at you whenever he speaks.

13. He starts acting nicer when you’re around him

14. He says “yes” to all the things you ask him to do

15. He treats you differently to other girls (He will make you feel special)

16. He looks at you a lot every time you smile or laugh

17. He finds any excuse to touch you or sit next to you

18. If you flirt with a friend of his when he can see, and he looks jealous or automatically flirts back

19. He asks about you to your friends when you’re not around

20. He has cute little nicknames for you

Now, after knowing all these signs, what will you do next?

Once you know fairly sure that he likes you, it is time to take action. Put together a step-by-step plan for getting him to fall for you.

But how about if he seems does not interested in you?

If that so, then you need to know the trick is. The trick here is to know what it is that makes a man feel this kind of attraction for you. You need to learn the specifics tips for how to create that kind of attraction inside a man, whether you’re just meeting him, or you’ve been together for months or years.

When you do the things that are sure to make a man feel that gut-level attraction that goes deeper than just his physical attraction and desires, then he’ll do and try anything to be close to you.

Finally, what you need to do is to learn skill about knowing how to make man feel attraction for you. What you have to do is to learn. It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that any woman can learn it if she wants.

So, if you want to learn the keys to making men feel ATTRACTION for you and want him to be around you for the long term, then you need to visit Catch And Keep Him

Besides the meeting and attracting men “stuff”, you’ll also discover about how attraction, communication, psychology and emotions all play into the longer term “stuff” around dating, and creating a solid foundation for a future relationship (that lots of women will never know about!).

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The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those people, events and experiences that match your state of being. If you focus on having gratitude for the love, companionship and joy you have in your life right NOW, you will attract more of that into your life. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will send out a message of lack and you will attract more lack into your life.

In the movie conversations with God, the character Neale says to God, I just want my life back. And God says to Neale, You can’t have anything that you want. They then have an entire dialogue where God explains to Neale that by ‘wanting something (or someone)’ all you get to have is the experience, the feeling of ‘wanting.’

As part of the preparation to manifest your soul mate I suggest that you begin the process of “living as if.” This means that your daily actions become congruent with your beliefs. For instance, I once heard a story about the great actress Della Reese. During the time she was waiting for her soul mate to arrive, she would set a place at the table for him each time she had a meal. Eventually, he arrived. Della had sent a clear message to the Universe and the Universe delivered.

Next time you are shopping for greeting cards, begin to buy some that express your love and joy for your beloved knowing that someday you will give them to him or her. Are there things for your home you are waiting to buy (or hoping that you will someday get as wedding gifts)? Buy them now! Imagine that you have been selected to host a King or Queen. What would you need to do to prepare your home? New sheets? Towels? Dishes? Plant a garden? Clear the clutter? You’ll know when you really, really believe your soul mate is on the way because creating the space for them in all areas of your life will become a priority.

The period of time when you are waiting for your soul mate to arrive offers an important opportunity for self-reflection. Consider this: If your soul mate had the ability to see your life right now, would you (and they) be happy with what they were observing? Are there things you would change once they arrive? Begin to live your life today AS IF they are already here. This may mean that you give up casual sex with your ex-lover or neighbor.

Remember, the process of attracting your soul mate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soul mate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. (As opposed to sending the signal that you’ll be ready someday – when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost ten pounds). Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams .starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living “as if ” is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door.

Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
for more details. Otherwise check out The Soulmate System Blog here.
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