Imagine you’re attending a live theatre show with friends. It’s interval and the inevitable question comes up: What do you think of the show so far?” This particular show is rather different and it’s vitally important to you – it’s called “Your Life”. You’re the star, the director, producer and script writer.

So, what do you think of your life so far? Like the stage show, there’ll be parts you’ve liked and parts you haven’t, people you’ve liked and people you haven’t. Are you hoping the second half of the show will be as good as, or better than, the first half?

There’s some other noteworthy factors about this show:

It’s the opening night and it’s also closing night – there’s only one performance
There’s no rehearsal
The script is being written as you go and much of the early parts were predominantly written by others for you.
How much are others still dictating to you what the script should be? Do you feel life generally is writing the script for you? In other words, do you feel you’re simply being swept along by influences outside of your control?

A play is written against a backdrop of external events but the plot is created by the writer. It’s the same in real life. You may not have control over the events that affect your life, but you most certainly have control over how you decide to respond to them. Therefore, no matter what is going on around you, you have the right and the power to write your own script.

The influences on your script so far can be looked at in terms of your work, home life and play (your discretionary interests). Of these, you may well have had the least control over your work, greater control over your home life and the greatest control over your personal discretionary interests which reflect how you enjoy expressing your true self.

Probably, however, the areas over which you have the greatest control have been given the lowest priority in your life’s development. Look at it this way. An acorn has all the ingredients to become an oak. Nature provides the necessary soil and water to reach its inevitable destiny of blossoming into a majestic tree. You were once the size of an acorn in your mother’s womb. That embryo contained all the ingredients needed to be who you are today – and much more. But life stunts our growth and we’re distracted from blossoming to our full potential.

Now is the time to remind yourself that the show has only one performance – and who knows how long it will be? It’s time to focus on the person within you, more than the world around you.

In scripting the rest of “Your Life”, get back to discovering, exploring and enjoying all of your embryonic talents and abilities that have been lying dormant or under-developed within you. There’s a wonderful person in there who so often hides behind a public mask, a passionate being who has much to offer but who is suppressed in favour of society’s version of success.

Focus the rest of your life on enjoying being the person your natural talents were begging you to become, the person who enjoys being the real you. The spin-offs will surprise you in terms of not only greater personal life satisfaction, but also better relationships with others, improved work/life harmony and a higher quality of work productivity. In short, you will achieve the success you were born to enjoy.

You are invited to visit http://www.workleisure.com for further information on Peter Nicholls’ approach to lifestyle management that focuses on the real person you have always been. Peter Nicholls can be contacted at peter@workleisure.com.

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A Definition of Introvert

Introversion is the tendency to focus one’s attention towards the inner, mental world rather than external, physical “reality”.

Introversion is a natural characteristic occurring in about 25% of the population according to psychotherapist Dr Marti Olsen Laney in her excellent book The Introvert Advantage. Introversion is not something we have or not, rather we all occupy a specific point on an introvert extrovert continuum.

Know thyself: are you an introvert?

We are each born with unique characteristics. In order to play our particular traits to their best advantage it is necessary to become acquainted with precisely what we are, our drives, inhibitions etc. Self-knowledge comes primarily from introspection, a surprisingly difficult process that requires discipline to overcome our mind’s inherent reticence.

If you prefer sitting quietly to socializing, if you prefer fewer, deeper relationships to numerous casual, shallow friendships, chances are you are an introvert.

Self-observation and introspection may be supplemented with the use of various “personality tests”, a number of which are freely available online. Tests based on Jung’s personality types, eg the Myers-Briggs, will reveal where you lie on introvert extrovert continuum.

Accept no single test as definitive. Instead, take several and compare their findings with what you already know about yourself. Tests may highlight certain aspects of yourself that you were not consciously aware of but in seeing them made explicit you might acknowledge them.

Through the process of introspection, testing and comparing the outcomes with self-knowledge and experience we arrive at a pretty good idea of our particular character and its strengths and weaknesses. Whatever our peculiarities we are now empowered to begin making the best of them.

Acceptance

We are each unique individuals, born precisely as we are to fulfill a very special purpose. That’s right, YOU ARE SPECIAL. Be you tall or short, fat or thin, light or dark skinned, introvert or extrovert… you are special and worthy of self-approval and love.

Western society tends to value extroverts more highly than introverts, perhaps that’s because extroverts are in the majority. However introversion is NOT a problem or disease, nor is it something to be ashamed of or ‘cured’. In many ways introverts have advantages over extroverts. By directing their energies inwards they are closer to their Spiritual essence. Introverts can more easily open themselves to inspiration and creativity. They are less distracted by worthless, deleterious “noise”.

To introverts the inner, mental world is of supreme importance. Relating to externality takes great effort, even – at times – pain. Because of society’s prejudice towards extroversion we may begin to feel weak, inferior. Stop being overwhelmed by other’s views of what’s ‘right’ or ‘best’. Only you can know what it’s like to be you. Only you know what you truly want in life. Never try to be what you are not.

Just as we should accept ourselves as we are, so we should accept others for what they are. No man is an island. Human progress has been made possible by specialization and cooperation. Just consider how many contribute to the comfort enjoyed in our daily lives, the farmers that produce our food, the builders that build our houses, the teachers that empower us with knowledge etc etc. And so we must accept the need to co-exist harmoniously with others.

From social interaction the introvert may even find experience and stimulation. But only ever so far as we are comfortable. In the knowledge of ourselves we should never try to be extrovert, just as dogs never try to be cats.

What of the introvert married to an extrovert partner? Even in partnership we retain individuality. It is OK for each spouse to pursue his or her particular path. But, occasionally, compromise is necessary. Perhaps the introvert partner may agree to attend a limited number of social functions on condition that s/he may time limit their involvement, the degree of involvement, and whether involvement happens at all.

A Place of Your Own

With self-knowledge and self-acceptance the introvert can begin constructing a lifestyle and pathway that is right for them. They should identify their most productive channels (writing, painting, business, finance, whatever…) and pursue these and direct their efforts to achieving maximum impact within them.

Ideally the introvert will be able to make a living through self-employment. The growth of the Internet is creating numerous new home-based business opportunities, liberating many from the rat race of working for others.

Librarianship, accountancy and academia are oft considered classic introvert occupations. A quiet and predictable work environment is good, as is one that aligns effort with conscience, eg working with a non-profit organization operating in a field that is strongly believed in.

As mentioned, there are varying degrees of introversion. For some introverts a quiet and entirely unstimulating existence is bliss. These folk are lucky. They can simply organize their lives, work and hobbies to minimize external stimulation. This certainly does not make their lives bland or unproductive. What they lack in external engagement is compensated by their rich and active inner world. This group can be extremely creative.

Other introverts face the paradox of craving a degree of external stimulation, but finding it physically and mentally draining. For such folk the answer is in finding a balance that optimizes personal satisfaction, eg engaging in external activity but limiting the number or type of events they participate in. “All things in moderation”, is a good motto. Learning to allocate enough energy for venturing outwards balanced by sufficient recovery time for self-repair is the key. It takes practice and will surely bring some knocks along the way, but with maturity that harmony may be found.

Johnny Finnis is editor of selfhelpsanctum.com, helping you help yourself. Have your say on our blog A Spiritual Voice.

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The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those people, events and experiences that match your state of being. If you focus on having gratitude for the love, companionship and joy you have in your life right NOW, you will attract more of that into your life. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will send out a message of lack and you will attract more lack into your life.

In the movie conversations with God, the character Neale says to God, I just want my life back. And God says to Neale, You can’t have anything that you want. They then have an entire dialogue where God explains to Neale that by ‘wanting something (or someone)’ all you get to have is the experience, the feeling of ‘wanting.’

As part of the preparation to manifest your soul mate I suggest that you begin the process of “living as if.” This means that your daily actions become congruent with your beliefs. For instance, I once heard a story about the great actress Della Reese. During the time she was waiting for her soul mate to arrive, she would set a place at the table for him each time she had a meal. Eventually, he arrived. Della had sent a clear message to the Universe and the Universe delivered.

Next time you are shopping for greeting cards, begin to buy some that express your love and joy for your beloved knowing that someday you will give them to him or her. Are there things for your home you are waiting to buy (or hoping that you will someday get as wedding gifts)? Buy them now! Imagine that you have been selected to host a King or Queen. What would you need to do to prepare your home? New sheets? Towels? Dishes? Plant a garden? Clear the clutter? You’ll know when you really, really believe your soul mate is on the way because creating the space for them in all areas of your life will become a priority.

The period of time when you are waiting for your soul mate to arrive offers an important opportunity for self-reflection. Consider this: If your soul mate had the ability to see your life right now, would you (and they) be happy with what they were observing? Are there things you would change once they arrive? Begin to live your life today AS IF they are already here. This may mean that you give up casual sex with your ex-lover or neighbor.

Remember, the process of attracting your soul mate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soul mate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. (As opposed to sending the signal that you’ll be ready someday – when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost ten pounds). Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams .starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living “as if ” is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door.

Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
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Many people think a girl has to be drop-dead gorgeous to be really successful at flirting with a guy. Actually, anybody can do it. What you need to do is to learn how to flirt with a guy correctly in order to impress the guy you like and also show the guy that you like him, and you may be get surprised when you find out that he likes you too.

These flirting tips for girls, teen girls and ladies in all walks of life is just some guide for you to go out and find that special someone, in case, you have your own style, just incorporate some of the tips here and I guarantee, you’ll be irresistible! Okay, here are the 5 tips on how to flirt with a guy:

1. Be conscious of your appearance

If you want to flirt with guys, the first thing that you need to pay attention is your physical appearance. It is not always necessary to dress provocatively, but you should wear something that looks elegant, clean looking, comfortable, and at the same time makes you feel confident. Remember, you don’t need to have millions of expensive clothes to look beautiful because some simple fashions never go out of style. Try sporting dark, slimming jeans, a simple solid colored tank or cami, some chunky bead necklaces, or a cute sun dress.

Be sure that you shower and clean yourself regularly. You should also wear deodorant, shave frequently, clean your ears, brush your teeth and hair, and you could try to paint your nails. Also, try to wear your hair in a style that makes you feel pretty and use a perfume that smells sweet, but is not too overpowering.

2. Ensure That You Are Alone

Don’t stay in a group. A guy may find it a little uncomfortable to approach you if you are in a large group of people. No man can bear a rejection in front of a herd. Also, he may feel that he can’t approach you because of your friends.

So, ensure that you are sitting or standing alone for at least some time, so that he can approach you easily. Also, try to minimize the distance between the two of you. For example, you can sit at the chair next to him.

3. Act Right

There are multiple ways to act flirty, here are some of the best suggestions:

Compliments

Be sure to compliment them on things that are true. Sometimes people will make up compliments just to talk to someone, but that is the total wrong thing to do. You really should compliment on things you really like, so you sound more sincere naturally.

Eyes contact

The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. It’s possible to make a guy’s heart skip a beat by giving him a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. Here is how to do it:

If you’re walking by someone you’ve got the hots for, give him a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. He’ll get the message.

Additionally, when you’re talking to a guy you like, take a second to momentarily break away from his eyes and pause on his upper body or chest. Let 2 seconds pass. Then slowly move your eyes back up and make eye contact again. This will give him chills of excitement. He’ll realize that you were checking him out…and he’ll love it.

Hair Flip and Twirl

If you want to catch a guys attention, flip your hair casually over your shoulder, twist it and then untwist it, tuck it behind your ears, or run your hands through it.

Soft Giggle and Smile

According to polls, a laugh and a smile are the sexiest things a female can wear. If you perfect your smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will find some great results. Practice forcing a natural smile and laugh, it can help through awkward situations.

Magic Touch

You can learn to brush a guy in such a way that you send tingles up and down his spine. Casually tap him while laughing, rest your head on his shoulder if you’re tired and hold his hand when you’re nervous; it will give him a sense of manliness and you a touch sweetie-pie, no pun intended.

4. Move Closer to Him and Start The Conversation

Approach him and start a light conversation to get things going, but don’t make it too obvious that you like him. If he approaches you, look him in the eyes as a sign of affection and confidence. The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about what you have in common, talk about your surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.

5. Get To Know Him

After he has come up to you and both of you have started talking, just try to find out whether he is your type or not. Is he one of the pushy ones or will stop at the line you draw. If you feel comfortable with him, carry on with the evening. In case he is not your type, just excuse yourself politely from his company. However, remember that you are the one who led him on. Now if you don’t feel up to it, don’t get outrightly rude.

Lastly, if he’s interested in you, don’t just go immediately to be “best friends” or”boyfriend.” Just start hanging out with him, and become friends, slowly become best friends, until it becomes even more! You want to make sure it is the right guy for you, and you know what he likes! Good Luck, Girls!

So, if you want to learn the keys to making men feel ATTRACTION for you and want him to be around you for the long term, then you need to visit Catch And Keep Him

Besides the meeting and attracting men “stuff”, you’ll also discover about how attraction, communication, psychology and emotions all play into the longer term “stuff” around dating, and creating a solid foundation for a future relationship (that lots of women will never know about!).

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Soulmate

I was married for almost 30 years and, to everyone who knew us, it appeared we had found each other’s ‘soul mate.’ I never disagreed with these well-wishers, but often wondered what that really meant. If they were describing ‘compatible,’ ‘harmonious.’ ‘like-minded,’or ‘in-tune,’ I would concur. The next most over-used term is ‘having chemistry.’ If they mean that we were both carbon-based life forms, again, a big, affirmative. But when we go down the ‘soul mate’ lane, we’re treading on a spiritual path that has many other implications. We would have to explore the very depths of what composed the human soul and how it would even be possible that somewhere in the vast cosmos there is a destiny that dictates a potential perfect ‘soul-match.’

The Webster’s definition of ‘soul’ is: “the complex of human attributes that manifests as consciousness, thought, feeling and will, regarded as distinct from the physical body.”

So we are entering the realm of the intellectual and philosophical study related to the human mind and inner being. This concept has been the fodder for religious arguments since before biblical times. When does the soul enter the body near conception and where does it go after death? Answer that question and you can write your own article.

Suffice it to say, we don’t know much about the subject of what constitutes a person’s psyche and inner spirit. Whether that ethereal element has the ability to seek out a suitable companion is suspect, at best. I would put my faith in my own capability of recognizing someone with similar values and interests by employing the simple act of conversation. This would require several interactions via e-mail, mail, phone calls, or in person to accomplish the task. It sure takes the pressure off of finding that ‘soul mate.’

Which brings up a finally problem. If we do have a ‘soul mate’ that has been molded by the creator, is it a single entity? It would be logical to assume that we don’t have multiple ‘soul mates.’ If that were the case, it’s a darn big world out there. Who is to say they are of the same ethnic, religious, or national background. Might mine be somewhere in France, Japan or Kenya? How would one go about finding that elusive spirit? Place an ad on the web? I’m not being sarcastic at all. If it’s an inner-being type quality, how can you possibly search for a person that could literally be anywhere? And, if they could be located, would they immediately recognize you as their perfect match? What if they were Israeli, but you were Iraqi, how would that work out?

I didn’t intend to dash any hopes and dreams, but rather to be realistic. I have found a wonderful second wife that meshes well with my values and interests. And that’s about the most I could hope for. She doesn’t actually consider me her ‘soul mate’ and that’s okay with me. We get a long quite well, regardless of what we call our relationship. I suggest that those of you who are on a quest for the perfect match settle for a reasonable expectation before life passes you by. There are probably many people out there you can be happy with, and not just a special predestined, one. But a ‘soul mate?’ Myth busted!

Jeffrey Hauser’s latest book is, “Inside the Yellow Pages,” which can be viewed at http://www.poweradbook.com

He was a sales consultant for the Bell System Yellow Pages for nearly 25 years. He graduated from Pratt Institute with a BFA in Advertising and has a Master’s Degree in teaching. He had his own advertising agency in Scottsdale, Arizona and ran a consulting and design firm, ABC Advertising. Currently, he is the Marketing Director for thenurseschoice.com, a Health Information and Doctor Referral site.

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Is he attracted to me? That is the question that I always hear when a girl is asking to their friends about a guy that she starts getting interested to him. This can be a hard puzzle to solve when trying to find out what’s in a guys mind. Sometimes, it can be frustrating not knowing the whether he may feel the same way as you do.

So, if you are doubt and you always ask yourself whether he is attracted to you or not, then you need some clues for him to make you sure. But, how do you tell if a man is attracted to you? Here are my top five ways to find out that he is attracted to you.

1). Pay attention to any significant changes in his behavior toward you.

For example, he will call you all the time, pursues you by giving you lots of attention, compliments, and wants to take you places with his friends and family. Also, he suddenly wants to both share his feelings with you, and hear and listen to your feelings

2). Start showing him a bit more interest and see how they respond.

This could be as simple as looking into his eyes, or actually coming out and flirting with him, it depends on how gutsy you feel, but showing him that you’re interested too could be a crucial way of knowing how he feels about you.

3). Note his body language.

Does his upper torso seem to be pointed towards you when you’re around? Are his feet pointed toward you? Does he ever mimic your movement? Ever fidget? These are all signs that a boy gives off subconsciously that are signs of interest and he doesn’t even realize that he’s doing it! That’s the fun part. But do look out for those kinds of signs and anything else that’s non verbal.

4). He will ask you out.

If a guy is into you, he will ask you out, or he’ll most definitely go out with you when you ask him first. There are no exceptions to that rule, unless he was with someone else at the time and wants to be true to them. So unfortunately, if a guy does not go out with you when you ask him out, he does not like you.

5). Ask him!

Just ask him directly if all else fail, let him know your feelings. After you have shared yours, ask him how he feels about you. Try not to act outwardly hurt if his feelings are not the same as yours; after all, you asked him. It will also save a lot of time and you will not daydream without any guarantees that something will ever happen between you two. Finally. if he likes you and not as his friend, then you are on the right path.

So, if you want to learn the keys to making men feel ATTRACTION for you and want him to be around you for the long term, then you need to visit Catch And Keep Him

Besides the meeting and attracting men “stuff”, you’ll also discover about how attraction, communication, psychology and emotions all play into the longer term “stuff” around dating, and creating a solid foundation for a future relationship (that lots of women will never know about!).

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
for more details.
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Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifesting him or her into your life. The basic law of attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.

I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is part of the formula for manifestation. If you do not yet believe with 100% certainty that your soul mate is out there, let’s begin to look for things that will make a believer out of you.

Do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because, loveable people want more love in their lives. But, if you believe you are not loveable, I’m going to ask you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down and then memorize them. You will be using them shortly for your treasure map.

I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soul mate.

The list usually goes something like this:

I’m too old.
I’m too fat.
I’m too damaged.
I have too much baggage.
I am too successful.
I am not successful enough.
All the good ones are taken.
Nobody I want wants me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses to keep you stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse. What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? It’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love.

You don’t really know where air or water comes from but you totally believe that they are there for you. As a human being you know that air and water are your divine right. You know that no matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water.

The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate. There is nothing for you to do, there is only a way for you to BE.

Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at http://www.SoulMateKit.com

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If you would like to find out how you can find your Soulmate in Six Easy Steps.
Click on the link at The Soulmate System .
For a free copy of the 24 page Step One to The Soulmate System, click here
for more details.
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High self esteem or self confidence, is not something some lucky people are born with, a lot of it lies in our upbringing, and how your self image have been build up through life. If you want happiness, success and fulfillment you need high self esteem. If you appreciate yourself, and look at yourself as worthy of whatever you find important, you will automatically have high self esteem, and a strong self image, which is your conception of your beliefs about yourself.

In fact how you see yourself will always influence your thoughts, your actions, your feelings and your behaviour. And all that put together with your abilities and from that comes the results you produce in your life.

So if you have low self esteem, you will have an inner image of yourself as some sort of a failure or defeat, and you will see yourself as not very worthy, and probably feel like you are a victim of circumstance and bad luck.

And if you have high self esteem, your inner image will project optimism in everything you do, it will be like seeing yourself as a worthy person, and have a great self confidence. You will feel like you have a purpose, and be positive in most, if not all of your actions.

People with high self esteem, are not beating themselves up when they fail at something, they go right back to being optimistic, and see what some might see as failure, as a success, much like Thomas Edison described it when inventing the electric light bulb. “I don’t see myself failing 3000 times with this, I am certain that it will work, and I am 3000 tries closer to success” Not quite accurately what he said, but I think you get the point here.

From this we can also see that high self esteem people have a sense of direction, and a feel for what they do as important. When things don’t work out right for them, they usually stand back, and look objectively at their results, and find what they can correct in order to produce another result, as opposed to low self esteemed persons, who often do the exact same thing to get the exact same results, and they don’t have a clue why.

So, what is the secret to high self-esteem? Basically, it is accepting the self, and then peeling off the layers of conditioning and lies that have caused self esteem and self confidence to decrease and be buried.

7 steps To Increase Your Self Esteem And Self Confidence

1. Accept where you are in life, and don’t keep beating up yourself when you fail at something.

2. Get at peace with your past, your weaknesses and your strengths.

3. Don’t take yourself so seriously, we all make mistakes, and it’s not the end of the world every time.

4. Work on loving yourself for what you are, we are all unique persons, and we all have a worth in life. And try to understand that you are here for a purpose.

5. Remember and cherish your successes, no matter how small they are, it will help your mind learn that success is a part of you. Praise yourself when you achieve something, it is your achievement, and praising yourself for your success is quite the opposite of beating yourself up for failing.

6. Visualize yourself with success and high self esteem, see the person you would bee if you were a success from the outside, study him/her, how they walk, breath, talk and so forth. And then try to be one with that person in your mind, it will be hard to do at first, but if you make this a daily assignment for yourself, it will get easier, and it will work wonders for your self esteem and self confidence.

7. Finally, set goals for yourself, plan your successes, and reward yourself, at least emotionally by praising yourself whenever you achieve some sort of a goal, make it small achievable goals to begin with, it is a great confidence booster to achieve a goal, no matter how small it may seem to others, this is your life, go out and get it.

Do these 7 steps regularly, take action, and you will be well on your way to more self esteem and self confidence, put your all in it, and take back the life you deserve.

Janno Lassen is a Danish hypnotherapist who runs several hypnosis, self hypnosis and self improvement related websites along side having private clients.

Get free self improvement advice, and learn how to raise your self esteem and develop genuine self confidence.

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Do you believe in Soul Mates or have you lost hope?

Are you someone who believes:

A) I’m never going to meet my soul mate

B) I used to believe in soul mates until I had a string of frustrating relationships

C) I’m not meeting anyone I like at all!

Believe me, I know, I’ve been there and it hurts. The good news is you can attract a soul mate. It’s not too late!

Please do not give up if you relate to any or all of the above comments. Believe me, I know, I’ve been there and it hurts. The good news is you can attract a soul mate. It’s not too late!

Would you like to know about the different type of soul mate relationships that exist? Why they exist? How to create the best relationships for yourself?

Remember you have FREE WILL.

Here are 3 tips to ensure you call in the right mate and that you make you’re present relationships the best they can be.

1) Treat Yourself with Love

Some people think this means they will become self absorbed and selfish. Then they feel guilty and self criticism kicks in. Oh the voice of that inner critic is so very quiet. Deadly subtle at times, they don’t even notice it. Can you relate?

When was the last time you took really good care of yourself?

My recommendations:

a) Book a lovely spa treatment
b) Arrange a hike with a friend in the fresh air
c) Have some quality time with your best friend (turn your cell phone off and be fully present)

Why do any of the above suggestions?

Because they get you in touch with your soul. When you’re connected to your soul desires this leads to;

2) Listen to Your Soul and You’ll Meet Your Ideal Mate

You have to know what you want. If you’re not clear about who you wish to spend your days with, you’re not going to get what you want. Get quiet and listen inside.

When you love yourself, take good care of yourself, you develop a sense of inner peace. This allows you to be specific about how you wish to spend your time and who you want to hang out with.

3) You Have to Believe Your Soul Mate Exists

You’ve done steps 1 and 2 and hopefully your soul is sensing the potential of a special soul mate. This is when the self sabotage is likely to kick in.

“I’ll never meet someone tall, dark and handsome. If I do, there’s got to be a snag. He’ll leave me, be unfaithful. I’ll get bored”.

The little self-sabotaging voice goes on and on until it wears down your positive expectations. What’s the outcome? You don’t meet anyone or you end up disappointed.

Be optimistic. Even if it feels weird. Look in the mirror and appreciate your beauty. SMILE : )

There is a soul mate out there just for you.

About Joanna Garzilli: Madame Figaro Magazine chose Joanna as “The Psychic to see in Los Angeles”. She has given over a thousand successful psychic readings including celebrities Goldie Hawn and her passion is teaching people to develop their own psychic skills includes Baseball Hall of Fame Ernie Banks. Joanna created Interactive Psychic TV programming in the UK and her TV show was endorsed by Neale Donald Walsch. She has hosted over 150 hours of Live TV and her upcoming book “Unleash The Psychic In You” will be out at the end of 2007. She currently teaches “Living in The Psychic Zone” and “The Soulmates Connection” at The Bodhi Tree Annex West Hollywood, The Aura Shop Santa Monica. Joanna has featured as a psychic expert on MTV. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband Nick, dog and two cats.

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